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Overcoming Fears


Coming Out Story

Overcoming Fears


Coming Out Story

My Coming Out Story

Coming Out is an important process that is different for everyone, some experiences are difficult to hear while others are heart-warming and inspiring.


The next crucial point was to inform my parents. It was a really huge deal. My life is divided into two parts: the time before I told my family, and the time after. The decisions I made and the life I lived, before and after, are totally different. It’s like black and white.

In my childhood, I was a tomboy. I had neither Barbies nor tea parties. Most of the time I spent somewhere outside with the neighborhood boys.

At that time I didn’t know anyone else that was gay or lesbian. So I didn’t really know how to word it. I’ve always been sure that when I eventually get a boyfriend, they’ll be a girl.

After years of exploring my sexuality, I finally found myself in a wonderful relationship with a girl. Being a private person, I told only my close friends about how I felt. But I never tried to hide my sexuality from the outer world.

Coming out is never easy and I sincerely hope that my story will inspire others. I am sure all humans desire to feel accepted, respected, loved, and have the freedom to love and be who they are, no matter what their orientation is. No one mustn’t be condemned just for his or her sexual identification.

I’ve decided to share my coming out story which begins with my first ballet class. I was only five when I realized that I see the world in a slightly different way. I wanted to let people know but hesitated. I didn’t want to just come to my school and surprise everybody because I didn’t feel like I was ready for that.

And then I just felt writing a letter would inform everybody and give everybody time to think and reflect on this before they face me for the first time as a girl.

I didn’t know anyone else that was gay or a lesbian. So I didn’t really know how to word it.
Christina Henry


My Struggle

It was breaking my heart and driving me crazy. I didn’t want to keep it secret but at the same time, I was afraid to tell it directly to the people I love most.

When I finally decided to reveal my secret I was literally in seventh heaven. It was like something enormously heavy dropped off my back and I could breathe freely with both my lungs and soul. I’ve never regretted my coming out.

Eventually, I was filled with a sense of harmony and peace because everything that I struggled with or felt discomfort about finally made sense to me, and once those floodgates opened and years of pent up pain and shame were released, I regained the freedom and found the power to live my life to its full extent.

One Year Later

My life has really changed a lot since I revealed my orientation to my family and friends. I feel like a man who has wings behind his back. Now I have a girlfriend and we are happy to wake up every morning to see the dawn and spend another wonderful day together.

My Friends Reaction

My Pride Gallery

Here’s my pride gallery. I want you to see and feel how happy I am. Never be afraid of who you are. Be proud of yourself and then you reach harmony.

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